This week our intern, Sam, unexpectedly lost his grandfather. Nobody knew it was coming. Suddenly—in an instant—he was ushered into the next life. Family and friends who remain are left to grieve and mourn their loss.

For months Sam has played an integral role as we prepare to film our life-changing Search for Me identity series. We’ve been putting a lot of work into this important project and by God’s grace plans were slowly beginning to come together. We were only two days out when everything changed.

There’s nothing like a serious illness or the death of a loved one to bring life back into focus. In an instant we remember that material possessions aren’t all that important and that the affairs of life cannot be our first priority. In my case, I am reminded that ministry is about touching people, not just getting things done. Yes, we will complete the project in due season, but only after we’ve had this opportunity to renew our focus.

All of this relates amazingly well to our recent emphasis on conflict resolution. Sam had a close relationship with his grandfather, and to the best of my knowledge there were no unresolved barriers between them. As difficult as it is to endure this loss, the pain would be far worse if they had not been at peace with one another.

There comes a time when we have to ask ourselves what we value more—being right or being connected. I’m not suggesting that we become weak-willed doormats who always take the blame regardless of the circumstances, but I am convinced that stupid human pride often separates us from people that truly matter.

Are you currently at odds with someone who truly is important to you? Today would be a good day to renew your focus and reach out with the love of Christ.